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A MOST UNUSUAL BLOG POST

July 5th, 2010

Hello everyone.  I hope this note finds you well.  You may have noticed a clear decrease in my communications of late.  No blogging, no newsletters, no podcasts, and very few daily tweets.  Ever since I decided to connect with the larger world I have made it my general practice to not shy away from being personal and talking about myself and my family.  It has always felt natural to me.  I see no reason to change that now.

Many of you know about my mother Judi.  For those who do not, here is the briefest of bios:  Judi is 64 years of age, lives happily in Florida, and absolutely loves crocheting blanks for a number of local charities.  She’s the greatest.  Unfortunately, mom has been diagnosed with stage 4a squamous cell carcinoma (basically, late stage throat cancer).  Her odds are decent according to the research.  She has just completed her first week of chemotherapy, and, if all goes well, she will complete nine weeks of chemo and then seven more for radiation.  Of course, at any time things can develop in an unexpected direction.

I know that so many of you have been touched by this disease.  I have heard from more than a few of you.  Thanks for sharing your stories.  I lost my father to a rare form of stomach cancer nine years ago.  Now for the second time I am watching my parent go to battle – and battle she will.  If you have been up close and personal with a loved one while they deal with this disease you know precisely where I am:  working hard each and every day to see the glass half full and working hard to share that perspective with my mother.

I am so blessed and so lucky.  I have so many kind people with whom I have been associated sending warm notes and positive thoughts.  Professionally, I have amazing flexibility compared to many such that I have been able to spend most of the last few weeks with Mom.  I have a wife who has stepped up magically during the days I cannot be there to help with anything that needs to be handled.  I have two amazing boys – just young enough to not really know what Grandma Judi is experiencing and just funny enough to make us smile even in this challenging time.

Finally, I have you:  the few thousand wonderfully crazy folks who follow me.  You listen to my rants on the podcasts, you retweet my tweets, you read the newsletter and blog, and you show the most amazing kindness when we meet at events where I speak and tell my stories.  I have no doubt that this episode with Mom will produce a few more interesting stories to share with others.  Fist, however, I need to spend some time focused on just that – getting through this episode as productively as possible.  While Dr. Dewett has gone global in the last few years, it is still a one man shop!  Thus, aside from a tweet here and there, you are not likely to see much activity from me over the next few months.

Please know that 1) I’ll be back with more energy and insight before you know it, 2) I greatly appreciate your support, and 3) I love my mother!  Go tell your mom you love her.  Stay positive – see you soon ;)

Todd

Ps – the picture below of the little pink rubber duck was taken at the cancer clinic where Mom receives her treatment.  She of course knows all about my mascot Danny the Devil Duck, so she wanted me to snap this picture.  I told her the pink duck likely had horns like Danny, but they fell out during chemo.  Mom cracked up.  The glass is half full.

pink duck

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DANNY THE DEVIL DUCK IS THE MAN

June 10th, 2010

It seems like just yesterday he was merely my mascot.  My fun little friend who accompanied me on gigs.  Then he got his first dose of stardom and that was it.  Now he runs the show.  I actually heard him refer to me as his mascot.  Jeez.

FYI – more of Danny on my Dr. Dewett Facebook page…  :)

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A BRUTALLY HONEST TAKE ON DIVERSITY

June 9th, 2010

(Yet another excerpt from the forthcoming book The Little Black Book of Leadership)

The common mantra is diversity = good.  However, that is not terribly accurate or useful.  The truth is diversity always hurts before it helps.

Diversity has the potential to broaden perspectives and enhance our creative decision making capacity.  However, that potential is not realized as often as should be the case.

The workforce is increasingly diverse in terms of race, gender, age, and socioeconomic background.  There are many bases of diversity.  However, in the end, these categories of differences are not useful.

What is useful is how they contribute

to a diversity of thought.

To harness the power of diversity, understand that:

  • Diversity makes people uncomfortable.  A huge self-protective left over tendency from the cave days is to react less than positively to those who look, think, and act differently than we do.  It was useful then, not so useful now.
  • Diversity can help if leaders model the way.  When leaders move past the rhetoric and thoughtfully act in a manner supportive of diversity, others begin to follow suit.
  • Diversity can help if the team has decent conflict management skills.  When you follow the rules and guidelines noted above, diversity moves past a focus on differences and towards being a catalyst for improved performance.
  • No amount of diversity training trumps thoughtful conversations within a group.  Training might build sensitivity, though it is often hurts as much as it helps.  Real change related to embracing diversity begins with words and actions within the group on the job.

To be clear, diversity is an amazing asset and an increasingly unavoidable reality.  Build up your appreciation and tolerance and conflict management skills and soon enough you will see how diversity can enrich your team.

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